If you are thinking that most wedding services are focused on the Bride, well, you're not alone! There is almost too much information available to the Bride, so much that it has become confusing for both Bride and Groom! We are here to help. Out of respect for the Groom, we have developed a few pages that should offer some assistance. We've put together a reasonably complete checklist below, as well as some Words of Wisdom from other Grooms who no doubt learned the information they're sharing with you the hard way!
Choose your Best Man prudently!
One who has great organizational skills is preferable, but loyalty and responsibility are the most critical. He'll be assisting you and your Bride in a number of ways, such as:
- Managing your Groomsmen, their various responsibilities and lodging.
- Organizing your bachelor party.
- Tackling the roles of chauffeur, toastmaster and friend & advisor.
- Picking up boutonnieres and running other miscellaneous last minute errands.
- Ensuring that all parties know how to get to the church.
- Assisting with the rehearsal dinner, including preparing the toast to the Bride and Groom.
- Ensuring that everyone looks great in their tuxes.
- Helping you in finding the perfect gift for your Bride from the Groomsmen.
- Assisting with your travel and honeymoon arrangements.
- Delivering payment to your priest, minister, rabbi, or other officiator, as well as the photographer, chauffeur, band, caterer, etc.
- Keeping your marriage license in a safe place until the wedding day.
- And of course, handing you your wedding rings at the right time!
Select your formalwear merchant. Set up an appointment where you'll choose the colors and style of your formalwear. You should probably have your future Bride there with you before going with the sky-blue, wide-lapelled, 70's style tuxes. Although most Brides try to keep their wedding gown a surprise to you, it doesn't usually work the other way around!
Make your boutonniere selection early. It is also the Groom's responsibility to buy the all-important Bridal Bouquet, with most paying for the floral arrangements as well.
Consider having your wedding bands engraved. Here are a few ideas: Autre ne veux [I think of none other], Forever in Love, Our love is eternal, Semper fidelis [Always faithful], Semper amemus [Our love is forever].
Don't forget to purchase that combination membership for your Bride to two or more gourmet clubs that you both can enjoy together! This is a great idea and it easily allows you to plan a romantic rendezvous with your wife to celebrate your marriage—every month! Our members have told us that they have included a copy of their toast to the Bride. Others have composed a new poem to accompany their first delivery, making for a truly unique experience. How ever you decide to usher in your first post-nuptial date, your Bride is sure to appreciate the thought you've put in to a gift that the two of you can experience together!
Don't forget your blood tests and the marriage license! And be sure to take the lead on managing your honeymoon arrangements by getting an early start on applications for passports and visas, this takes a lot of grooms by surprise, so get on it… Your Bride has her plate full already!
Plan the details of your first evening as man and wife. This is likely to be your first opportunity to be alone with your new Bride—consider surprising her with flowers and Champaign or wine in the hotel suite [Remember—she had to give away her bridal bouquet!]. Be creative, this is a precious time that most couples remember for the rest of their lives.
Reception Gifts: You are going to have your hands full with so many things, you needn't fill them with your reception gifts as well! Make arrangements to have the gifts brought to your reception delivered to the proper place (feel free to call upon your trusty Best Man as a final favor for theday).
Call us toll free at 800-625-8238 and place your orders for the Best Man and Groomsmen gifts early. We will happily help you draft those special messages and create customized Gift Announcements for each of your valued attendants. Remember, take the time to compose meaningful messages to your valued friends-they will be remembered for years to come!
The rehearsal dinner is traditionally the responsibility of the Groom's family. You'll be intimately involved in planning this event, so be sure to give your careful consideration and add your own personal touches.
Beverages: Not all caterers provide drinks—you may need to delegate providing beer, wine and other beverages at the reception and/or rehearsal dinner in the event that your caterer is not providing them.
Get all those checks for the officiators, photographers, caterer's fees, musicians or DJ's, etc. to your Best Man so he can deliver each to the proper party.
Confirm everything at least once!